There are few things in this world that I love more than black coffee and the words of Henry David Thoreau.
Regram of @tordevitto because it’s true
This is so true. I’ll give you an example from my life.
I don’t have kids, but whenever my nieces and nephews are around, they’re like my kids and I try to spend as much time with them as possible. I do stuff with them, and when I go out with one of them, I am literally fawned over and admired. People smile, sometimes they stop and commend me, and some women are really receptive to seeing me out and about with a kid. They all mean well, but it makes me uncomfortable. There is no doubt in my mind that they would not be fawning over a single mother out and about with a child or two in tow. Single dads are seen as responsible. They are pretty much rockstars. Some women will look at you as a catch. Single moms aren’t afforded that status.
This past summer, I took my nephew to the movies and 2 people actually stopped me to commend me for spending time with my son. He’s my nephew, but that’s not the point. Even if he was my son, why should a father get accolades for spending time with his child? That should be expected. I’ve never heard anyone say “It’s really great how you as a mother spend time with your kids.” Not once. Of course, I didn’t get nasty or rude with the people who stopped me. I said he was my nephew and exchanged some pleasantries. For a few moments, I thought about how messed up it is that merely going to the movies and buying popcorn with a kid was seen as this amazing thing where I needed to be told how great I was and commended for it. I thought I was going to watch a movie and eat popcorn with my nephew. I didn’t know that qualified me for being the humanitarian of the year.
yeah like I’ve heard people say things like a father is “babysitting” his children for the day. like what the fuck, they’re his kids, why the hell is he being treated like a saint for watching them??? something that mothers are just expected to do?
Jon Stewart, explaining to young people why books are awesome.
When I was in high school, I made a list of all the qualities I wanted in my future wife. In its entirety, this list was more than 50 items long. It included some important things like “a growing faith” and “good communication skills”. But it also included a lot of…
“Often they heard nearby Elvish voices singing… But if Legolas was with the Company, he would not interpret the songs for them, saying that he had not the skill, and that for him the grief was still too near, a matter for tears and not yet for song.”